Difference of Perception : What is and what should be!

Career and Home Management

 Chauvinism: Men are supposed to earn money and food which is a superior job than women cooking food and feeding the family.

Equality: Men and women can earn, can bring up families together, can both cook in turns and live peacefully by doing all tasks in understanding and distributing work, tasks and finances between them.

Extreme Feminism: Why should women cook food, when they can earn money for the family?

 Acceptance: Men are programmed to go out and hunt, as in older days, where physical brawn was more important than mental skills. Now the modes of earning are not restricted to just strength of body or muscles, hence women are catching up with the “earning money” part. Hence, it is the prerogative of every human being, be it either man or woman, to accept that one will live righteously, earn, feed and “respect” each other, irrespective of the difference between the two. Because, men can never be equal to women, and vice versa is true too.

Bearing and bringing up children

 Chauvinism: Sperms are the biggest gift of God to a man, and hence a male child is a blessing more than a female child, as a woman is impregnated by a man.

Equality: Women give birth to children, and men take care of their upbringing. They distribute responsibilities, they stay up in the night to watch the child in turns, and they both equally attend to the needs of the child.

Extreme Feminism: Why should women undergo the pain of child delivery, and be blamed if it is a girl? Men are responsible for the Y chromosome which determines sex of the child. Men should take care of the children, as the duty of the woman is not to spend her entire life behind a child.

 Acceptance: A man and a woman are endowed with different capabilities. Carrying a child in her womb for 9 months is the most excruciating task for a woman, and no matter how hard a man may try, he will not be able to even empathize what is to carrya child. Women are given this amazing strength and trust of bearing and bringing up a child, because she can. Men are emotionally not strong enough, not sensitive enough to understand what a child needs when it cries. They are better at other things. Hence, a mother always has the responsibility of bearing and bringing up a child, without question. Because that is how it was intended. Men have a job of supporting the family, when the mother is busy taking care of the child. This is how it was supposed to be. There is no point in comparing the roles of mother and father, because they are not comparable.

Sex

Chauvinism: I will make my woman satisfy me, whenever I want. That is what women are for.

Equality: Men and women experience pleasures in different ways and capacities. So they should take turns in satisfying each other, and make sure this act is not just one way.

Extreme Feminism: Women have needs, and they can demand it whenever they want or reject a man’s desire, if she is tired and exhausted. Women are not objects of sex.

Acceptance: The only basic thing that differentiates a man from a woman is the reproductive organ. The response to the act of sex for both of them is completely different. Where procreation is not a priority and pleasure is, in that case, one or the other remains unsatisfied many times, and it has nothing to do with ego. Sometimes you see the beauty of human life; sometimes you make someone see it. But when the act is for procreation, then pleasure is a byproduct. There has to be an acceptance of this fact, because again, the superiority is not the question, the involvement is.

 

Relationships and society

Chauvinism: I am the man, and I run the family, so it runs after my name!

Equality: Both distribute responsibilities, name, fame, status and recognition equally and live in mutual peace and understanding.

Extreme Feminism: I refuse to follow the rules the man has made. I make my own rules. I won’t change my name after marriage.

Acceptance: Some things are beyond tags or labels. Women can never match men and vice versa is true too. The fight for equality or fight for proving that men are superior to women or women are superior to men is baseless. There were two genders made, with an intention that there’d be two opposite poles. Unequal. Different. In the process of proving a point, the men have been suppressing women, and women have lately started retaliating against anything that demeans the status of men. A housewife was a proud lady, back in ancient times, when she had the greatest responsibility of molding the characters of her children; until it was deemed socially low or derogatory. Hence women started fighting back, and the unnecessary fight for equality erupted. Men and women can never be equal. This has to be accepted.

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Many times, men feel that women are fighting too hard for equality. Women feel that they are being deprived of opportunities. The bridge is widening and it has become so wide, that now there are two parties, hence there is outright Chauvinism and Extreme Feminism nowadays. There would soon be a time, when men would be the oppressed class with women looking down on men. This fight is about nothing else but dignity.

Every human being deserves a chance to everything that is out there and available. There is nothing that any human being should be deprived of because he/she is a man or a woman. The day we forget that we have to become “equals”, and just learn to respect each other, whatever we are, with whatever capacities we have, the world will be wonderful place to live in, without these unnecessary tags of Chauvinism and Feminism. Let’s replace those two words by Chivalry and Dignity.

Women, Men, are you listening?